Saturday, March 4
Mar. 4th, 2023 09:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Decent weather. Sunny. The cats are really enjoying sitting in the windows.
I didn't need to go anywhere today.
I decided to call my nephew. Trainwreck's son.
I am not the only member of our family to talk to him recently about his Mom's living situation. I think pretty much the whole entire family feels that she needs to move, and isn't likely going to be able to do so on her own.
It would be NICE if this could happen with dignity. It would be nice if it didn't hurt her feelings. I don't think that is possible anymore.
This isn't even judging her, saying "she should be doing x, y, z". I really believe that she cannot do this herself.
She is very tired because she has liver damage, which is resulting in a build up of iron in her blood. It is hard on her organs, likely hard on her ability to think clearly, and she is very tired. She needs to sleep most of the day.
She isn't going to be able to reach the people who could help her move into a low income house where her sons live, because that would mean KNOWING WHO TO CONTACT, and she doesn't have the internet, nor would she know how to use it.
She would need someone to help her get her disability payment transferred to another province, which she won't be able to do herself.
She. Needs. Help.
My nephew says he knows a person who works in Social Services who can maybe give him an idea of how to proceed. I told him it is time to begin the process of having her assessed, maybe getting her trailer condemned, and doing just about anything to force her to live somewhere else.
This nephew genuinely wants her to live near him so that he can help her, and make sure she starts going to a doctor regularly.
I don't know if anything will come of this phone call, but I have to start somewhere.
I spent some time with the goats and ponies again, just being with them outside in the sun. They are such nice little animals.
Then I had a quiet afternoon mostly reading. I started the autobiography about Anthony Bourdain. It's odd how people were all SO SURPRISED that he killed himself, but I am a very short way into the book and it is already pretty evident that the man had demons. In a way, I'm already a little bored because the book is literally just talking about his issues with drugs. More drugs. Then this drug. Then that drug. How he never had any money or security because he always spent it on heroin. I'm on like, page forty or so.
I learned that almond milk was popular in Medieval Europe as many people gave up dairy during Lent. It was also a staple in many dishes, beyond being a dairy substitute.
https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/almond-milk-obsession-origins-middle-ages?utm_source=reddit.com
Decent weather. Sunny. The cats are really enjoying sitting in the windows.
I didn't need to go anywhere today.
I decided to call my nephew. Trainwreck's son.
I am not the only member of our family to talk to him recently about his Mom's living situation. I think pretty much the whole entire family feels that she needs to move, and isn't likely going to be able to do so on her own.
It would be NICE if this could happen with dignity. It would be nice if it didn't hurt her feelings. I don't think that is possible anymore.
This isn't even judging her, saying "she should be doing x, y, z". I really believe that she cannot do this herself.
She is very tired because she has liver damage, which is resulting in a build up of iron in her blood. It is hard on her organs, likely hard on her ability to think clearly, and she is very tired. She needs to sleep most of the day.
She isn't going to be able to reach the people who could help her move into a low income house where her sons live, because that would mean KNOWING WHO TO CONTACT, and she doesn't have the internet, nor would she know how to use it.
She would need someone to help her get her disability payment transferred to another province, which she won't be able to do herself.
She. Needs. Help.
My nephew says he knows a person who works in Social Services who can maybe give him an idea of how to proceed. I told him it is time to begin the process of having her assessed, maybe getting her trailer condemned, and doing just about anything to force her to live somewhere else.
This nephew genuinely wants her to live near him so that he can help her, and make sure she starts going to a doctor regularly.
I don't know if anything will come of this phone call, but I have to start somewhere.
I spent some time with the goats and ponies again, just being with them outside in the sun. They are such nice little animals.
Then I had a quiet afternoon mostly reading. I started the autobiography about Anthony Bourdain. It's odd how people were all SO SURPRISED that he killed himself, but I am a very short way into the book and it is already pretty evident that the man had demons. In a way, I'm already a little bored because the book is literally just talking about his issues with drugs. More drugs. Then this drug. Then that drug. How he never had any money or security because he always spent it on heroin. I'm on like, page forty or so.
I learned that almond milk was popular in Medieval Europe as many people gave up dairy during Lent. It was also a staple in many dishes, beyond being a dairy substitute.
https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/almond-milk-obsession-origins-middle-ages?utm_source=reddit.com
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Date: 2023-03-05 05:26 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-03-05 07:08 am (UTC)I guess we'll see if it looks like anything is going to happen this summer. I think if nothing does, there are other family besides my nephew (s) who might take action. My brother T is concerned enough that he might do something.
I am just outraged that she is living without a working toilet in a ghost town, and no one has begun any kind of intervention.
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Date: 2023-03-05 05:58 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-03-05 07:12 am (UTC)A lot of people admired him for his open minded approach to pretty much everything, and I don't know whether he was a "nice" person or a "good" person. I don't know that anyone could know that from his television persona.
I am just not that surprised that he took his own life, given that it sounds like pretty much his entire life was turbulent and spiked with addictions. I can see people CARING, or sad about it, but I remember how at the time, everyone seemed so surprised.