Tuesday, May 9
May. 9th, 2023 11:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Rain!
Nice and cool, more like spring, and rain.
It smells wonderful outside. Have you ever smelled poplars in the spring time?
I had a phone conversation with Sister E's husband. He is very upset about his Mom, who just recently moved to a care facility. Things are not good there. Apparently he had no choice where she went (I'm not sure about this, other people have had the ability to transfer people to closer/nicer places). This place is over crowded, she has to share a small room and there's no room for personal effects, the staff has her sedated all the time, and she's not getting the opportunity to walk.
She had a pin put into her recently broken hip (and she's supposed to be doing physio, but no one is doing it with her), and somewhere along the line they lost her dentures. At this point, it might be too difficult to get her a new set because of the many trips to get them to fit.
I personally think he COULD try to get her moved, as I have heard of many people doing so. I think I need to talk to my sister to get a clearer picture of the situation.
My Sweetie worked in the main office of his company in the city today, instead of at the job site.
The town where his company is working on a project was evacuated because of threat of fire (which is why they were working out of a different office), but since it has been raining, I thought the evacuation might be over now.
Last night I told him to take everything with him to go back to his apartment from the city, because the evacuation would likely be lifted, and it would save him a lot of driving to go from the city to his apartment, instead of driving back here to get everything, then driving all the way back past the city again to his work apartment.
Did he do that? No. So that means literally over two hours of extra driving.
My husband apparently loves to drive. Not only can he make TWO SEPARATE TRIPS to the town half an hour away from us in THE SAME DAY, and other trips to town over the weekend instead of trying to be more efficient with how he stacks his tasks, he added two hours to his driving today because he didn't feel like taking his small bag of stuff with him to work today.
It makes me crazy at times.
His air of chaos was really getting to me today. He disrupts my whole day when he gets into "frenzy mode" where he is just grasping at things wildly, trying to do twenty things at once, and he just springs things at me out of nowhere expecting me to just give up my whole plan for the day to try to help him, or even spent a moment with him before he leaves. He is not always in "frenzy mode", but I hate it when he is, because it's not really as productive as he thinks. It is more like running around in circles, often not really getting anything done but APPEARING to get things done because of the movement.
Today it was the fact that he was coming back here after work (instead of leaving for his apartment), and would only be here for a short time before going to his work apartment, so I did feel like it would be nice to see him before he left for the ten day work week.
I was just on the verge of giving up and leaving to see River when he pulled up, and in a mad whirl I helped him throw his bike into the car (so he can bike at his job location after work), and he wanted to go get his car tires changed at the mechanic's down the road without giving me any time to say goodbye unless I went with him.
So I did, also kind of resenting the fact that this meant pushing my riding time later.
So, we went to the mechanic's got the tires changed, and I guess it was nice to at least sit and talk with him while we drove there and back.
He was even going to get groceries on his way to the apartment, even though we GOT GROCERIES YESTERDAY and I told him to buy what he needed to take to work. Nope. He's going to go get them again.
By the time I got to the barn, it was 7 pm, when I am usually DONE by then. At least the days are nice and long now.
It was actually kind of nice to FINALLY BE IN CONTROL OF MY DAY.
IT FELT SO PEACEFUL TO DRIVE THE CAR MYSELF, knowing where it was going and that I was finally in charge of myself. I HATE being hijacked by my husband in "frenzy mode" and it was happening all weekend.
River's breathing was good, since it was cool and had been raining. I'm happy for him.
Our work went well. Went through the usual recent work like the current pattern and Liberty circles, and the turn on the haunches. Good work overall.
His breathing was good so we cantered in our ridden work and he actually had some pep.
I tried getting a canter in our Liberty circles (with me on the ground), and he did it. It's kind of a big deal to have him do a liberty circle canter and stay with me and keep a fairly small circle (think a lunge circle without any tack, only the circle was still nice and close to me, not using the outside of the arena to make the circle).
This is not River and I, but it is a fair demonstration of a Liberty circle cantering.
https://youtu.be/u7AGnk9PXC8
My Sweetie did finally make it to his work apartment safe and sound. He told me he drove past several areas where there had been fires.
I learned what an impact a concrete floor can have on the health of people and especially developing children. I never realized that parasites were such an issue with a dirt floor, but it makes sense if little babies are sitting and crawling on dirt and putting things into their mouths.
https://cega.berkeley.edu/research/piso-firme/
Rain!
Nice and cool, more like spring, and rain.
It smells wonderful outside. Have you ever smelled poplars in the spring time?
I had a phone conversation with Sister E's husband. He is very upset about his Mom, who just recently moved to a care facility. Things are not good there. Apparently he had no choice where she went (I'm not sure about this, other people have had the ability to transfer people to closer/nicer places). This place is over crowded, she has to share a small room and there's no room for personal effects, the staff has her sedated all the time, and she's not getting the opportunity to walk.
She had a pin put into her recently broken hip (and she's supposed to be doing physio, but no one is doing it with her), and somewhere along the line they lost her dentures. At this point, it might be too difficult to get her a new set because of the many trips to get them to fit.
I personally think he COULD try to get her moved, as I have heard of many people doing so. I think I need to talk to my sister to get a clearer picture of the situation.
My Sweetie worked in the main office of his company in the city today, instead of at the job site.
The town where his company is working on a project was evacuated because of threat of fire (which is why they were working out of a different office), but since it has been raining, I thought the evacuation might be over now.
Last night I told him to take everything with him to go back to his apartment from the city, because the evacuation would likely be lifted, and it would save him a lot of driving to go from the city to his apartment, instead of driving back here to get everything, then driving all the way back past the city again to his work apartment.
Did he do that? No. So that means literally over two hours of extra driving.
My husband apparently loves to drive. Not only can he make TWO SEPARATE TRIPS to the town half an hour away from us in THE SAME DAY, and other trips to town over the weekend instead of trying to be more efficient with how he stacks his tasks, he added two hours to his driving today because he didn't feel like taking his small bag of stuff with him to work today.
It makes me crazy at times.
His air of chaos was really getting to me today. He disrupts my whole day when he gets into "frenzy mode" where he is just grasping at things wildly, trying to do twenty things at once, and he just springs things at me out of nowhere expecting me to just give up my whole plan for the day to try to help him, or even spent a moment with him before he leaves. He is not always in "frenzy mode", but I hate it when he is, because it's not really as productive as he thinks. It is more like running around in circles, often not really getting anything done but APPEARING to get things done because of the movement.
Today it was the fact that he was coming back here after work (instead of leaving for his apartment), and would only be here for a short time before going to his work apartment, so I did feel like it would be nice to see him before he left for the ten day work week.
I was just on the verge of giving up and leaving to see River when he pulled up, and in a mad whirl I helped him throw his bike into the car (so he can bike at his job location after work), and he wanted to go get his car tires changed at the mechanic's down the road without giving me any time to say goodbye unless I went with him.
So I did, also kind of resenting the fact that this meant pushing my riding time later.
So, we went to the mechanic's got the tires changed, and I guess it was nice to at least sit and talk with him while we drove there and back.
He was even going to get groceries on his way to the apartment, even though we GOT GROCERIES YESTERDAY and I told him to buy what he needed to take to work. Nope. He's going to go get them again.
By the time I got to the barn, it was 7 pm, when I am usually DONE by then. At least the days are nice and long now.
It was actually kind of nice to FINALLY BE IN CONTROL OF MY DAY.
IT FELT SO PEACEFUL TO DRIVE THE CAR MYSELF, knowing where it was going and that I was finally in charge of myself. I HATE being hijacked by my husband in "frenzy mode" and it was happening all weekend.
River's breathing was good, since it was cool and had been raining. I'm happy for him.
Our work went well. Went through the usual recent work like the current pattern and Liberty circles, and the turn on the haunches. Good work overall.
His breathing was good so we cantered in our ridden work and he actually had some pep.
I tried getting a canter in our Liberty circles (with me on the ground), and he did it. It's kind of a big deal to have him do a liberty circle canter and stay with me and keep a fairly small circle (think a lunge circle without any tack, only the circle was still nice and close to me, not using the outside of the arena to make the circle).
This is not River and I, but it is a fair demonstration of a Liberty circle cantering.
https://youtu.be/u7AGnk9PXC8
My Sweetie did finally make it to his work apartment safe and sound. He told me he drove past several areas where there had been fires.
I learned what an impact a concrete floor can have on the health of people and especially developing children. I never realized that parasites were such an issue with a dirt floor, but it makes sense if little babies are sitting and crawling on dirt and putting things into their mouths.
https://cega.berkeley.edu/research/piso-firme/
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Date: 2023-05-11 05:29 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-05-11 06:18 am (UTC)I've been riding at EXACTLY the same time and days of the week for....oh....two years now, and he never seems to remember. We have the same conversation pretty much every time he comes home.
"AAaagh...I have to drive to town for a wotsit, then go to so and so's place to borrow a trailer, then BACK to town before something closes, then...AAAGH..I need to get more materials from a different town, and then perhaps even go to another province for lunch...AAAAGH, and I forgot my laptop for work in the pants I lent to a hobo, so we have to go track him down."
"I have a riding time today at 5 pm".
"Do you really? What day is it?"
"Friday".
"Oh. I didn't know you rode on Friday."
"Yes. For several years now."
"Can you just skip it?"
"No."
"Well. Okay. Have you seen my pants?"
Getting help or advice is still leaving you in control.
My husband makes plans without consulting me, and expects me to go along with it, and even disrupting the plans I do have because HIS plans are more important. Not always, but on FRENZY days, that's what happens.
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Date: 2023-05-11 08:16 pm (UTC)All hometime work here has halted; nothing has been planned for the summer with surety. That means: nothing will happen.
I yanked out a dead boxwood a month ago, replaced it, and seeded the front lawn. I don't think it's been noticed.
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Date: 2023-05-11 10:05 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-05-11 11:33 pm (UTC)