Tuesday, May 23 (pm)
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Beautiful sunny weather.
I had a phone call with Trainwreck that started out okay, but got frustrating. We were discussing the possibility that an adult nephew who is now around 40 and has never had a known girlfriend might be gay, and wondering why he's never mentioned it since our family would be fine with that. Then my sister, right after saying how comfortable she is with gay people, goes on to say that the whole Trans thing is "just too much" and how much THAT bothers her, and how they should just do it at home where no one needs to see it, and so on.
Well, once again I decided I would not tolerate that kind of talk about people (and yet my sisters keep demonstrating their intolerance, and I don't know why they need to even bring it up to me). I firmly told her that it isn't hurting anyone, as uncomfortable as it may be to her, and that all they want is to live safely out in the open and be treated like people. I said that "women's clothing" is just a concept, and it changes all the time. After all, I wear pants and so does she. Not that long ago it was illegal for women to wear pants. Etc.
She says "well, that doesn't mean that I have to shop in a store that has a trans person working there", and I said no, you don't have to. After all, in the past, all kinds of people chose not to shop in stores operated by black people or women. She then was like "but I don't have a problem with black people or women ". I said "and most people don't have a problem with trans people either".
She just ended the conversation by saying "well, we could go on all day like this", and I said "I know I could if I had to".
I really don't know why she keeps bringing it up. I disagree with her, and she seems to think I'm on her side when she starts talking about it. I think she forgets that I won't allow her to talk like that about people.
I had wanted to take today slow, so I could recover from my drive home (I got back this morning very early), but there is just too much that needs doing.
We had some hay cubes and bedding delivered, and the delivery guy was SUPPOSED to deliver it in the afternoon when my husband could be home to make sure it got put inside the barn. Instead, the delivery guy brought it first thing in the morning when my husband was at work and I was still collapsed in bed (I didn't even know he was in the yard).
He ended up just leaving it in the driveway, and we had no way of moving it into the barn ourselves. We got a neighbor to do it in the evening, but had to pay him to do so since it meant his time and using his tractor.
This really angered me because the whole point of having a bulk delivery was to try and save some money, and by paying a neighbor to move it, we spent more than any savings from buying bulk.
My husband is going to talk to the manager at the farm place, and see if they will pay us something, because it says RIGHT ON THE INVOICE that we needed it delivered later in the day and put into the barn.
Terrible service.
So, one of the things I had to do first thing was to clean the old hay out of the corner of the barn where I wanted to put the hay cubes and bedding.
Then there was a pile of hay out in the yard from carrying feed across to the ponies/goats all winter. You get this trail of packed hay, and you have to rake it up and remove it in the summer. I put that pile of hay into the back of the truck.
Then I worked some more in the garden, pulling some weeds up at the edges and on another walkway. My husband did a bunch of work on that this past week. Then I took a bunch of not yet rotted manure and piled it on the walk way so I could till it in because the walk way is hard as a rock and impossible to pull weeds out of. I will later lay down a layer of old hay on it. This will only keep weeds down for this year, but if it helps, it's worth it.
Then my husband got home, and shortly after that is when our neighbor came to move the stuff into the barn, and we visited with him for a while.
After that, I tilled that part of the garden and laid the hay from the back of the truck among the raspberries.
Throughout the day I brought things back into the house from the car. My bags, jackets, food I didn't eat, etc. and put those away.
Kind of a grueling day, since I had driven through most of the night before.
Then we walked around and looked at the work my husband was able to do this past week. He had done some wiring and installed some outlets outside the goat/pony pen, and removed a TON of saplings from the horse pasture that we do not want to become trees. Ones that will just eat up the pasture space or growing along the fences. This is something we have to do often, as poplar and willow grow like weeds around here.
I learned that Sir Joseph John Thomson OM FRS (Order of Merit and Fellowhship of the Royal Society) (18 December 1856 – 30 August 1940) was a British physicist and Nobel Laureate in Physics, credited with the discovery of the electron, the first subatomic particle to be discovered.
He won a Nobel prize for his work, and had 6 of his students win a Nobel prize in physics, and 2 of his students win a Nobel prize in chemistry. Additionally, his son also won a Nobel prize in physics.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._J._Thomson
Beautiful sunny weather.
I had a phone call with Trainwreck that started out okay, but got frustrating. We were discussing the possibility that an adult nephew who is now around 40 and has never had a known girlfriend might be gay, and wondering why he's never mentioned it since our family would be fine with that. Then my sister, right after saying how comfortable she is with gay people, goes on to say that the whole Trans thing is "just too much" and how much THAT bothers her, and how they should just do it at home where no one needs to see it, and so on.
Well, once again I decided I would not tolerate that kind of talk about people (and yet my sisters keep demonstrating their intolerance, and I don't know why they need to even bring it up to me). I firmly told her that it isn't hurting anyone, as uncomfortable as it may be to her, and that all they want is to live safely out in the open and be treated like people. I said that "women's clothing" is just a concept, and it changes all the time. After all, I wear pants and so does she. Not that long ago it was illegal for women to wear pants. Etc.
She says "well, that doesn't mean that I have to shop in a store that has a trans person working there", and I said no, you don't have to. After all, in the past, all kinds of people chose not to shop in stores operated by black people or women. She then was like "but I don't have a problem with black people or women ". I said "and most people don't have a problem with trans people either".
She just ended the conversation by saying "well, we could go on all day like this", and I said "I know I could if I had to".
I really don't know why she keeps bringing it up. I disagree with her, and she seems to think I'm on her side when she starts talking about it. I think she forgets that I won't allow her to talk like that about people.
I had wanted to take today slow, so I could recover from my drive home (I got back this morning very early), but there is just too much that needs doing.
We had some hay cubes and bedding delivered, and the delivery guy was SUPPOSED to deliver it in the afternoon when my husband could be home to make sure it got put inside the barn. Instead, the delivery guy brought it first thing in the morning when my husband was at work and I was still collapsed in bed (I didn't even know he was in the yard).
He ended up just leaving it in the driveway, and we had no way of moving it into the barn ourselves. We got a neighbor to do it in the evening, but had to pay him to do so since it meant his time and using his tractor.
This really angered me because the whole point of having a bulk delivery was to try and save some money, and by paying a neighbor to move it, we spent more than any savings from buying bulk.
My husband is going to talk to the manager at the farm place, and see if they will pay us something, because it says RIGHT ON THE INVOICE that we needed it delivered later in the day and put into the barn.
Terrible service.
So, one of the things I had to do first thing was to clean the old hay out of the corner of the barn where I wanted to put the hay cubes and bedding.
Then there was a pile of hay out in the yard from carrying feed across to the ponies/goats all winter. You get this trail of packed hay, and you have to rake it up and remove it in the summer. I put that pile of hay into the back of the truck.
Then I worked some more in the garden, pulling some weeds up at the edges and on another walkway. My husband did a bunch of work on that this past week. Then I took a bunch of not yet rotted manure and piled it on the walk way so I could till it in because the walk way is hard as a rock and impossible to pull weeds out of. I will later lay down a layer of old hay on it. This will only keep weeds down for this year, but if it helps, it's worth it.
Then my husband got home, and shortly after that is when our neighbor came to move the stuff into the barn, and we visited with him for a while.
After that, I tilled that part of the garden and laid the hay from the back of the truck among the raspberries.
Throughout the day I brought things back into the house from the car. My bags, jackets, food I didn't eat, etc. and put those away.
Kind of a grueling day, since I had driven through most of the night before.
Then we walked around and looked at the work my husband was able to do this past week. He had done some wiring and installed some outlets outside the goat/pony pen, and removed a TON of saplings from the horse pasture that we do not want to become trees. Ones that will just eat up the pasture space or growing along the fences. This is something we have to do often, as poplar and willow grow like weeds around here.
I learned that Sir Joseph John Thomson OM FRS (Order of Merit and Fellowhship of the Royal Society) (18 December 1856 – 30 August 1940) was a British physicist and Nobel Laureate in Physics, credited with the discovery of the electron, the first subatomic particle to be discovered.
He won a Nobel prize for his work, and had 6 of his students win a Nobel prize in physics, and 2 of his students win a Nobel prize in chemistry. Additionally, his son also won a Nobel prize in physics.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._J._Thomson
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Date: 2023-05-25 04:30 am (UTC)I tend to walk on eggshells around this type, but it solves nothing. I don't think anything can be solved with intolerance like that.
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Date: 2023-05-25 08:20 am (UTC)Something that occurs to me, is that my sister is very unreliable. There is a very good chance that the issue of transgender people really doesn't bother her, and she's just saying this because she feels like being a dick about it. She's like that. The fact that it got a reaction from me probably means it will come up again in the future, because we all know how much fun it is to get reactions out of people when you're feeling a little invisible or bored.
This is basically what it is like to grow up with people like my family. I don't even know what to call it when everyone around you has mental illness and you're expected to pretend that it's all okay.
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Date: 2023-05-25 09:15 pm (UTC)That's a good point that I will have to ponder - how some people get a kick out of being "form a certain planet", as I like to say.
(It is the planet Asholia, btw)
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Date: 2023-05-26 02:44 am (UTC)I was reasonably firm about it when some of the pottery ladies were talking like this. Reasonable and not "angry", but I wasn't about to let their opinions go unchallenged.
I think that some folk actually think that they can spout off like that, and no one will dispute their views.
Yes, on a different day, you never know. My sister might be the one to defend Trans rights.
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Date: 2023-05-26 03:48 am (UTC)Who was it (an American politician, certainly) who argued that if "we" allow marriage equality, then "What's next? Man and dog?" Without looking it up, I'm guessing it was Rick Santorum, who hopefully enjoys the notoriety of having a sexual byproduct named after him. He deserves it.
Now I'm going to look it up, and I'm also going to look up "santorum" - because he deserves it.
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Date: 2023-05-26 03:56 am (UTC)