Friday, September 29
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Kind of a cool, drizzly day that was very pleasant.
A quick phone conversation with my Mom. Generally our conversations are more like me just talking about things here at our place, and her just making short comments. She does seem pretty content though, and that's the main thing.
I called Sister S. She decided to sell her tax/accounting business, and is now clearing out her office.
This business was something she built from the ground, with money she won in a suit against her former employers over unlawful dismissal. I always loved that it was kind of a "F*ck you" to that company, after she'd worked for them for about ten years and worked herself to death for them.
She has run this business for herself for the past 22 years, and the cycle of tax season being almost the only focus of her life from about November to May every year will be very strange now. She literally did nothing but get up and go to work for ten or more hours, come home in the dark and go to bed for months in the winter.
I hope it is actually relaxing for her, though I know she loved having her own business. It's really a huge landmark for her.
The nice thing though, is she WAS able to sell her business, and in some way she will see it carry on. She didn't have to just close her doors.
My Sweetie continued working on the house, mainly putting up the boards over the styrofoam insulation that will anchor the siding on another side of the house.
I went to see River, and I honestly felt a kind of resignation about trying to work on the freestyle pattern outside, because it had been raining, meaning we couldn't practice outside. R really wants us to do this outside when we video it, but if I can't even practice it this week...? It's out of my control.
We did work in the indoor arena, and for shits and giggles I worked through our freestyle pattern without even using whips, and you know what? He did it for me. Maybe the circles weren't very round, but hey, it was pretty cool.
I really wasn't worried about getting it perfect, since we aren't even going to be allowed to do it inside.
Then I rode him with a saddle, and a neck rope that R has that I use sometimes. I really wish I could just keep using one like that. It's considered a "beginner" neck rope because it is stiff, but it does such a good job of communicating cues that I can be really light with it, whereas when I use a softer (also floppy) rope, I don't think it transmits my cues clearly, and we really don't get great results with it.
What would be so wrong with just using the rope that works?
So, I felt like today, I actually had happier, more harmonious connection with River today than I've had in a while, and I enjoyed it. A day like this to me, is what I strive for. Him being happy and relaxed while still in tune with me, and me not feeling any need for a hard goal.
I walked around the pasture where I thought he lost his other fly mask, and I found it this time since the light was better.
I came home and we re-watched "Hidden Figures", a very good movie.
I learned about the "Small Penis Rule"; a way to avoid libel is to write about your character (even if it IS based somewhat on a real person) and describe them as having a very small penis. The idea being is that pretty much no male is going to step forward and say that the character is describing themselves.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Small_penis_rule
Kind of a cool, drizzly day that was very pleasant.
A quick phone conversation with my Mom. Generally our conversations are more like me just talking about things here at our place, and her just making short comments. She does seem pretty content though, and that's the main thing.
I called Sister S. She decided to sell her tax/accounting business, and is now clearing out her office.
This business was something she built from the ground, with money she won in a suit against her former employers over unlawful dismissal. I always loved that it was kind of a "F*ck you" to that company, after she'd worked for them for about ten years and worked herself to death for them.
She has run this business for herself for the past 22 years, and the cycle of tax season being almost the only focus of her life from about November to May every year will be very strange now. She literally did nothing but get up and go to work for ten or more hours, come home in the dark and go to bed for months in the winter.
I hope it is actually relaxing for her, though I know she loved having her own business. It's really a huge landmark for her.
The nice thing though, is she WAS able to sell her business, and in some way she will see it carry on. She didn't have to just close her doors.
My Sweetie continued working on the house, mainly putting up the boards over the styrofoam insulation that will anchor the siding on another side of the house.
I went to see River, and I honestly felt a kind of resignation about trying to work on the freestyle pattern outside, because it had been raining, meaning we couldn't practice outside. R really wants us to do this outside when we video it, but if I can't even practice it this week...? It's out of my control.
We did work in the indoor arena, and for shits and giggles I worked through our freestyle pattern without even using whips, and you know what? He did it for me. Maybe the circles weren't very round, but hey, it was pretty cool.
I really wasn't worried about getting it perfect, since we aren't even going to be allowed to do it inside.
Then I rode him with a saddle, and a neck rope that R has that I use sometimes. I really wish I could just keep using one like that. It's considered a "beginner" neck rope because it is stiff, but it does such a good job of communicating cues that I can be really light with it, whereas when I use a softer (also floppy) rope, I don't think it transmits my cues clearly, and we really don't get great results with it.
What would be so wrong with just using the rope that works?
So, I felt like today, I actually had happier, more harmonious connection with River today than I've had in a while, and I enjoyed it. A day like this to me, is what I strive for. Him being happy and relaxed while still in tune with me, and me not feeling any need for a hard goal.
I walked around the pasture where I thought he lost his other fly mask, and I found it this time since the light was better.
I came home and we re-watched "Hidden Figures", a very good movie.
I learned about the "Small Penis Rule"; a way to avoid libel is to write about your character (even if it IS based somewhat on a real person) and describe them as having a very small penis. The idea being is that pretty much no male is going to step forward and say that the character is describing themselves.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Small_penis_rule
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Date: 2023-10-02 07:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-10-02 07:53 am (UTC)The small penis rule was referenced in a 2006 dispute between Michael Crowley and Michael Crichton. Crowley alleged that after he wrote an unflattering review of Crichton's novel State of Fear, Crichton included a character named "Mick Crowley" in the novel Next. The character is a child rapist, described as being a Washington, D.C.–based journalist and Yale graduate with a small penis