Thursday, October 26
Oct. 27th, 2023 01:32 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
My husband being pretty good about doing dishes and keeping the kitchen clean. He's also been cooking breakfast for me most days, and doing the first feeding of the indoor critters. It's been nice to get up and not immediately have to jump into chores.
I also just like having a person in the house. I get very down and lonely when he's gone a lot for work, and the contrast in my general mood when he is home for a stretch is very telling. I am not actually insane, just lonely a lot.
I'm trying to mentally prepare for him being gone more soon. This week he is going to visit his parents, which is okay, and I'm glad he's doing that instead of wanting them to visit us in our home.
Then, he's been talking to someone at work who is hoping he can work in the office for a while, but for an undetermined amount of time. He is SUPPOSED to be at home using up his banked time for at least another month, in which time he said he could "for sure finish the bedroom". If he goes to work in the office, that will not be happening, and ANOTHER year will go by that he has no time to finish that bedroom.
Four years now, and we're still not living in the addition.
Anyhow. I know that sooner or later, he'll be back working away, on his ten days off four days at home again, and I will miss having a person in the house with me. Someone to eat a meal with, and talk about our day, and to snuggle with.
Sigh.
When I just got up (keep in mind I get up pretty late) I got a message from a pottery friend, about some of the scrap wood my husband said he could give her for her craft projects. I chose to call her, to set up a day where she could come look at what we have to give her.
It turned into a discussion of the pottery politics, and of one of the limitations that has bothered me for a long time; the lack of opportunity to learn how to make glazes.
Of course it got me all riled up, partly because there is likely almost nothing I can do to change anything. That feeling always bothers me.
So, that conversation bothered me all day.
First, we went to the mechanic down the road to get my husband's winter tires on his car. It's nice to visit with this mechanic, he's a good guy, and there are always two big dogs there that love being pet while you wait.
Then my husband and I did some work outside. We put back up a few fence rails that had popped off.
We put away, with great difficulty, the remaining siding that my husband wanted to store up in the rafters of the garage, and that was a HUGE pain in the butt to do. I did insist that he do that before he went home to visit his parents, because it is getting cold now, and he's already said that the siding gets brittle when it's cold. I told him that if he waited to do this job, it would crack if we tried to move it, OR he would just say "it's fine lying in the yard all winter".
I am desperately trying to address the pile of stuff that is still sitting beside the house, and I'm confused by it's continued existence. My husband had insisted that by the time he was finished with the siding, that mess would be gone because he would have used all of the building materials up.
Well, there's still piles of lumber and just STUFF, and of course, he's frustrated that I want to address it now.
Well, I'm not addressing it "now". I started addressing it (again) this spring, when we started up for the year, asking him if we could have it all either used up, put away, or tossed before winter.
So here we go again. He's saying now that there is a stack of OSB there, that he doesn't want to get rid of, but that he has no immediate plan for. I'm suggesting selling it, but he's like "NOOOO, we might need it!".
When we were putting the leftover siding up into the rafters, the garage was so full of stuff we could barely move in it to put the siding away. We still have some windows that didn't sell, some doors, and just on and on with small amounts of things that we likely aren't going to use, or at least can we be realistic about the timeline? If we might use it "some day", is that still maybe not a good enough reason to keep it?
I'm seeing if he will consider donating the old windows we didn't sell, and maybe selling some of the lumber , or SOMETHING. You can't hardly move in the garage, and in the area where he is supposed to be able to do wood working, you can't hardly walk in there. Every shed we have is FULL. The quonset that is supposed to be a shelter for our tractor has stuff in it too, so the tractor sits in our driveway, and it's ALWAYS IN THE WAY.
I get that we always need things for building and fixing, but there has to be a reasonable limit for keeping odds and ends?
Anyhow, I kind of rage-cleaned up anything that I knew was meant to go to the "great oubliette" for all the miscellaneous "potentially useful" pieces of wood.
I rolled a big water tank to a spot behind the garage.
I put away some bricks that have been sitting there since we finished the walk way last summer.
Then, with his help, I got a huge tarp folded up and put away, that was already under a layer of ice and snow. He was going to just leave it there, likely all winter, because it wasn't a big deal to him. A huge tarp, right in front of the garden, that in a very short time would be under the snow and impossible to move, leaving it to be an unpleasant job in the spring, and a hazard for me to avoid all winter.
Of course he was frustrated with me for "making him clean up" things, when really, is he an adult? He just never figures that cleaning up after a job is important at all. All the lumber sitting in heaps beside the house, well, why can't that be a "storage" spot, since HIS WHOLE ENTIRE GARAGE AND EVERY SINGLE SHED WE HAVE is too full and there's no more room, so why not just start leaving lumber in piles in our yard?
Anyhow, I don't know now if that pile beside the house will be gone this winter, but I'll tell you what, I'm going to be tossing anything I can carry out behind the garage where it belongs while he's visiting his family.
We came inside, and finished up "Breaking Bad". What a ride!
I learned about "Operation CHASE": Operation CHASE (an acronym for "Cut Holes And Sink 'Em") was a United States Department of Defense program for the disposal of unwanted munitions at sea from May 1964 until the early 1970s.[1][2] Munitions were loaded onto ships to be scuttled once they were at least 250 miles (400 km) offshore
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_CHASE#CHASE_3
This totally seems like something men would come up with, doesn't it? I bet the program ended when their wives found out.
My husband being pretty good about doing dishes and keeping the kitchen clean. He's also been cooking breakfast for me most days, and doing the first feeding of the indoor critters. It's been nice to get up and not immediately have to jump into chores.
I also just like having a person in the house. I get very down and lonely when he's gone a lot for work, and the contrast in my general mood when he is home for a stretch is very telling. I am not actually insane, just lonely a lot.
I'm trying to mentally prepare for him being gone more soon. This week he is going to visit his parents, which is okay, and I'm glad he's doing that instead of wanting them to visit us in our home.
Then, he's been talking to someone at work who is hoping he can work in the office for a while, but for an undetermined amount of time. He is SUPPOSED to be at home using up his banked time for at least another month, in which time he said he could "for sure finish the bedroom". If he goes to work in the office, that will not be happening, and ANOTHER year will go by that he has no time to finish that bedroom.
Four years now, and we're still not living in the addition.
Anyhow. I know that sooner or later, he'll be back working away, on his ten days off four days at home again, and I will miss having a person in the house with me. Someone to eat a meal with, and talk about our day, and to snuggle with.
Sigh.
When I just got up (keep in mind I get up pretty late) I got a message from a pottery friend, about some of the scrap wood my husband said he could give her for her craft projects. I chose to call her, to set up a day where she could come look at what we have to give her.
It turned into a discussion of the pottery politics, and of one of the limitations that has bothered me for a long time; the lack of opportunity to learn how to make glazes.
Of course it got me all riled up, partly because there is likely almost nothing I can do to change anything. That feeling always bothers me.
So, that conversation bothered me all day.
First, we went to the mechanic down the road to get my husband's winter tires on his car. It's nice to visit with this mechanic, he's a good guy, and there are always two big dogs there that love being pet while you wait.
Then my husband and I did some work outside. We put back up a few fence rails that had popped off.
We put away, with great difficulty, the remaining siding that my husband wanted to store up in the rafters of the garage, and that was a HUGE pain in the butt to do. I did insist that he do that before he went home to visit his parents, because it is getting cold now, and he's already said that the siding gets brittle when it's cold. I told him that if he waited to do this job, it would crack if we tried to move it, OR he would just say "it's fine lying in the yard all winter".
I am desperately trying to address the pile of stuff that is still sitting beside the house, and I'm confused by it's continued existence. My husband had insisted that by the time he was finished with the siding, that mess would be gone because he would have used all of the building materials up.
Well, there's still piles of lumber and just STUFF, and of course, he's frustrated that I want to address it now.
Well, I'm not addressing it "now". I started addressing it (again) this spring, when we started up for the year, asking him if we could have it all either used up, put away, or tossed before winter.
So here we go again. He's saying now that there is a stack of OSB there, that he doesn't want to get rid of, but that he has no immediate plan for. I'm suggesting selling it, but he's like "NOOOO, we might need it!".
When we were putting the leftover siding up into the rafters, the garage was so full of stuff we could barely move in it to put the siding away. We still have some windows that didn't sell, some doors, and just on and on with small amounts of things that we likely aren't going to use, or at least can we be realistic about the timeline? If we might use it "some day", is that still maybe not a good enough reason to keep it?
I'm seeing if he will consider donating the old windows we didn't sell, and maybe selling some of the lumber , or SOMETHING. You can't hardly move in the garage, and in the area where he is supposed to be able to do wood working, you can't hardly walk in there. Every shed we have is FULL. The quonset that is supposed to be a shelter for our tractor has stuff in it too, so the tractor sits in our driveway, and it's ALWAYS IN THE WAY.
I get that we always need things for building and fixing, but there has to be a reasonable limit for keeping odds and ends?
Anyhow, I kind of rage-cleaned up anything that I knew was meant to go to the "great oubliette" for all the miscellaneous "potentially useful" pieces of wood.
I rolled a big water tank to a spot behind the garage.
I put away some bricks that have been sitting there since we finished the walk way last summer.
Then, with his help, I got a huge tarp folded up and put away, that was already under a layer of ice and snow. He was going to just leave it there, likely all winter, because it wasn't a big deal to him. A huge tarp, right in front of the garden, that in a very short time would be under the snow and impossible to move, leaving it to be an unpleasant job in the spring, and a hazard for me to avoid all winter.
Of course he was frustrated with me for "making him clean up" things, when really, is he an adult? He just never figures that cleaning up after a job is important at all. All the lumber sitting in heaps beside the house, well, why can't that be a "storage" spot, since HIS WHOLE ENTIRE GARAGE AND EVERY SINGLE SHED WE HAVE is too full and there's no more room, so why not just start leaving lumber in piles in our yard?
Anyhow, I don't know now if that pile beside the house will be gone this winter, but I'll tell you what, I'm going to be tossing anything I can carry out behind the garage where it belongs while he's visiting his family.
We came inside, and finished up "Breaking Bad". What a ride!
I learned about "Operation CHASE": Operation CHASE (an acronym for "Cut Holes And Sink 'Em") was a United States Department of Defense program for the disposal of unwanted munitions at sea from May 1964 until the early 1970s.[1][2] Munitions were loaded onto ships to be scuttled once they were at least 250 miles (400 km) offshore
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_CHASE#CHASE_3
This totally seems like something men would come up with, doesn't it? I bet the program ended when their wives found out.
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Date: 2023-10-28 06:44 am (UTC)Tomorrow might be a day like that if all goes well!
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Date: 2023-10-28 08:08 am (UTC)My rage has settled a bit since a fair bit got moved the other day, now I need sustained motivation.
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Date: 2023-10-30 03:27 am (UTC)