Monday, November 13
Nov. 14th, 2023 12:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Still decent weather for this time of year.
I got together some pottery to take to town today for class. Our group is having a craft sale this upcoming weekend.
We went to town, and bought a fairly heavy duty clothes rack to put in the basement. We have an enormous amount of jackets and hoodies, and there's never enough space to hang them in the porch.
Many of our jackets and hoodies have been in piles in the addition and the basement, and I wondered what would happen if my husband saw all of his hoodies and jackets in one place together, if it would help him realize exactly how many he owns. I think when he doesn't see them all in one place, he isn't aware of it.
I know I have a lot of jackets too, and maybe this will help me to figure out which ones I use, and which ones I don't, and part with some.
If nothing else, we need to organize our jackets so we can actually FIND them. You can't use them if you don't even know where they are.
Then we went to the pottery studio. Since my Sweetie works tomorrow, we couldn't stay and do any work. We were more or less there to bring the items for the sale.
We did socialize with some others.
One of the people we visited with was the person who was my regular dog walking friend a few years ago, and she was my "horse barn" friend when we were both at the other "not good" riding barn.
There was a point when I realized that I was putting more effort into staying friends with her. I was the one doing all the initiation. When she moved to the little town that is literally only three miles away from our place, I thought "yay, it will be easy for us to hang out sometimes or walk dogs".
Nope. I wasn't pushy about hanging out with her. I did invite her to come meet our ponies when we got them, and to see our house when we were doing all the major work on it, and she expressed zero interest.
We used to meet every week for almost two years to walk dogs, and saw each other a lot at the riding barn. We used to go for supper as couples and I hung out a few times at her place. It wasn't outrageous to think that it might continue now that she lived much closer.
So, after she showed zero interest in visiting the house, the ponies, or meeting to walk, and did not once extend an invitation to us to see her new place, I figures something had taken place, and that was it. I didn't DO anything, I just stopped texting her or calling, and figured if she wanted to change that, she could.
Well, a few years have gone by, and she has left it like that, and never explained the change.
It hurts. When I see her now at pottery, she's not there to visit with me, though we do chat. We chat the way you would with any other person at pottery. It's chatty small talk. There is never a hint of friendship outside of the pottery studio, there's always a sense of a barrier to being actual friends.
My husband and I talked about it on the drive home, because he was at pottery with me tonight, and he did most of the chatting with this person. He's just as mystified as I am, because she certainly is friendly and polite to us, but there's nothing left of the relationship where we would all go out for supper, or go for a walk.
My husband really hit the nail on the head when he said "it's like you broke up, but now you have to keep seeing her at pottery, so she's pretending you were never together".
Yup. It's weird, and it kind of hurts every time I see her, because sometimes treating a person like just another person is just awful.
I won't say we were REALLY close friends, but it makes you wonder what went wrong.
After pottery, we got groceries. I'm grateful we're able to do so.
We came home, and my husband put the clothes rack together in the basement, so I hope to start organizing the jackets soon.
I learned about Leon Theremin. We are well-acquainted with the musical instrument he invented, but he had other interesting inventions as well. He invented one of the first metal detectors, a listening device for spying on the Russians, and a drum machine.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leon_Theremin
Still decent weather for this time of year.
I got together some pottery to take to town today for class. Our group is having a craft sale this upcoming weekend.
We went to town, and bought a fairly heavy duty clothes rack to put in the basement. We have an enormous amount of jackets and hoodies, and there's never enough space to hang them in the porch.
Many of our jackets and hoodies have been in piles in the addition and the basement, and I wondered what would happen if my husband saw all of his hoodies and jackets in one place together, if it would help him realize exactly how many he owns. I think when he doesn't see them all in one place, he isn't aware of it.
I know I have a lot of jackets too, and maybe this will help me to figure out which ones I use, and which ones I don't, and part with some.
If nothing else, we need to organize our jackets so we can actually FIND them. You can't use them if you don't even know where they are.
Then we went to the pottery studio. Since my Sweetie works tomorrow, we couldn't stay and do any work. We were more or less there to bring the items for the sale.
We did socialize with some others.
One of the people we visited with was the person who was my regular dog walking friend a few years ago, and she was my "horse barn" friend when we were both at the other "not good" riding barn.
There was a point when I realized that I was putting more effort into staying friends with her. I was the one doing all the initiation. When she moved to the little town that is literally only three miles away from our place, I thought "yay, it will be easy for us to hang out sometimes or walk dogs".
Nope. I wasn't pushy about hanging out with her. I did invite her to come meet our ponies when we got them, and to see our house when we were doing all the major work on it, and she expressed zero interest.
We used to meet every week for almost two years to walk dogs, and saw each other a lot at the riding barn. We used to go for supper as couples and I hung out a few times at her place. It wasn't outrageous to think that it might continue now that she lived much closer.
So, after she showed zero interest in visiting the house, the ponies, or meeting to walk, and did not once extend an invitation to us to see her new place, I figures something had taken place, and that was it. I didn't DO anything, I just stopped texting her or calling, and figured if she wanted to change that, she could.
Well, a few years have gone by, and she has left it like that, and never explained the change.
It hurts. When I see her now at pottery, she's not there to visit with me, though we do chat. We chat the way you would with any other person at pottery. It's chatty small talk. There is never a hint of friendship outside of the pottery studio, there's always a sense of a barrier to being actual friends.
My husband and I talked about it on the drive home, because he was at pottery with me tonight, and he did most of the chatting with this person. He's just as mystified as I am, because she certainly is friendly and polite to us, but there's nothing left of the relationship where we would all go out for supper, or go for a walk.
My husband really hit the nail on the head when he said "it's like you broke up, but now you have to keep seeing her at pottery, so she's pretending you were never together".
Yup. It's weird, and it kind of hurts every time I see her, because sometimes treating a person like just another person is just awful.
I won't say we were REALLY close friends, but it makes you wonder what went wrong.
After pottery, we got groceries. I'm grateful we're able to do so.
We came home, and my husband put the clothes rack together in the basement, so I hope to start organizing the jackets soon.
I learned about Leon Theremin. We are well-acquainted with the musical instrument he invented, but he had other interesting inventions as well. He invented one of the first metal detectors, a listening device for spying on the Russians, and a drum machine.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leon_Theremin
