Tuesday, November 21
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Still very nice weather.
I did a lot of messaging today because of a couple of things I put on Buy and Sell.
I did a bit of cleaning.
I spoke with Trainwreck, and she is quite ill again, throwing up everything and not sleeping. Her doctor feels that it is anxiety, and it likely is somewhat. She's VERY worked up about her hoard of stuff, and she's out there just about every day just digging through it in the mold and dust and mouse droppings because she's got to go through it ALL and see it one more time.
She has no room in her new place, but probably still brings things back. She's freaking out about her son coming one more time with a flat deck trailer to take a tractor before the property changes hands officially.
She has had ALL SUMMER, for her son to come take things away, and here they are in the last week scrambling to pick things out of the piles.
She likely is just in a frenzy, not sleeping and freaking out...for what? Stuff she hasn't laid eyes on in five to ten years? Things she cannot use, cannot store, and probably won't be able to enjoy?
She whined for a while about how small her new place is, how "it isn't right to be living in a little box", so I reminded her that her shitty hoarded up trailer has a tiny trail through it, with a spot to sit and a part of the bed to sleep on, and she had no more actual space there than she does now.
She says "I can't go outside" (her suite in town means she has no personal yard), but there was no beauty in being outside at her trailer. What she MEANS, is "I can't pile up shit outside when I don't have room in my suite".
I said that if she wants to spend time outside, no one is stopping her from going for a walk in the park.
I know it's not the same as being able to walk around naked all summer, which she seemed to enjoy, but most people find ways to cope with changes.
We talked about our adult nephew's wife. Her brother (who we all met), died two weeks ago when hiking in Peru. Apparently he fell off a cliff. It seems quite extraordinary and unexpected, and he was just in his 30's.
Now my nephew and his wife are trying to get his body back to Canada, and of course this is difficult and expensive. They have a go fund me page.
Trainwreck said some pretty ugly things about them doing this, saying that "her family all seems to have lots of money, why do they need to beg for it" kind of talk.
I don't know what it would cost to bring his body back. It's likely a LOT of money, and then there will be funeral expenses. I don't know if her family have much money or not, but I have to assume that if they are asking for help, they probably need it.
I firmly chastised Trainwreck for being so heartless, because if it was OUR brother, we'd be heart-broken, and she says "but that would be MY brother, why should I care about someone I barely know?". Wow. I told her that it's just the common compassion we'd show anyone suffering such a loss.
So, that was enough of that crap for one day.
I went to see River, and we gently went through the "away" circles, and he did fine. He really doesn't seem to be comfortable with me adding "energy" to the ask, when I am trying to get it at the trot. When it's at a walk, he's fine. We'll just keep trying, without making him feel like I'm being aggressive.
He did well on his other work. Very well on bowing, though I still used treats.
R was around, and she was kind of frustrated because she'd asked her husband K to put up some lights on their front veranda, and he just kind of put every light they had up in no particular pattern, and it is just a solid wall of random colors with no artistry. It's kind of funny.
My Sweetie stopped in on his way home.
When I went home, he was making spring rolls to take to a potluck lunch at work tomorrow. We had some for supper.
We watched the newer version of "The Magnificent Seven", which is a pretty good movie.
That Hawaii is the only American state free of Rabies. Makes sense, it's like Australia.
https://health.hawaii.gov/docd/disease_listing/rabies/#:~:text=Hawaii%20is%20the%20only%20state,exposures%20outside%20of%20the%20state.
Still very nice weather.
I did a lot of messaging today because of a couple of things I put on Buy and Sell.
I did a bit of cleaning.
I spoke with Trainwreck, and she is quite ill again, throwing up everything and not sleeping. Her doctor feels that it is anxiety, and it likely is somewhat. She's VERY worked up about her hoard of stuff, and she's out there just about every day just digging through it in the mold and dust and mouse droppings because she's got to go through it ALL and see it one more time.
She has no room in her new place, but probably still brings things back. She's freaking out about her son coming one more time with a flat deck trailer to take a tractor before the property changes hands officially.
She has had ALL SUMMER, for her son to come take things away, and here they are in the last week scrambling to pick things out of the piles.
She likely is just in a frenzy, not sleeping and freaking out...for what? Stuff she hasn't laid eyes on in five to ten years? Things she cannot use, cannot store, and probably won't be able to enjoy?
She whined for a while about how small her new place is, how "it isn't right to be living in a little box", so I reminded her that her shitty hoarded up trailer has a tiny trail through it, with a spot to sit and a part of the bed to sleep on, and she had no more actual space there than she does now.
She says "I can't go outside" (her suite in town means she has no personal yard), but there was no beauty in being outside at her trailer. What she MEANS, is "I can't pile up shit outside when I don't have room in my suite".
I said that if she wants to spend time outside, no one is stopping her from going for a walk in the park.
I know it's not the same as being able to walk around naked all summer, which she seemed to enjoy, but most people find ways to cope with changes.
We talked about our adult nephew's wife. Her brother (who we all met), died two weeks ago when hiking in Peru. Apparently he fell off a cliff. It seems quite extraordinary and unexpected, and he was just in his 30's.
Now my nephew and his wife are trying to get his body back to Canada, and of course this is difficult and expensive. They have a go fund me page.
Trainwreck said some pretty ugly things about them doing this, saying that "her family all seems to have lots of money, why do they need to beg for it" kind of talk.
I don't know what it would cost to bring his body back. It's likely a LOT of money, and then there will be funeral expenses. I don't know if her family have much money or not, but I have to assume that if they are asking for help, they probably need it.
I firmly chastised Trainwreck for being so heartless, because if it was OUR brother, we'd be heart-broken, and she says "but that would be MY brother, why should I care about someone I barely know?". Wow. I told her that it's just the common compassion we'd show anyone suffering such a loss.
So, that was enough of that crap for one day.
I went to see River, and we gently went through the "away" circles, and he did fine. He really doesn't seem to be comfortable with me adding "energy" to the ask, when I am trying to get it at the trot. When it's at a walk, he's fine. We'll just keep trying, without making him feel like I'm being aggressive.
He did well on his other work. Very well on bowing, though I still used treats.
R was around, and she was kind of frustrated because she'd asked her husband K to put up some lights on their front veranda, and he just kind of put every light they had up in no particular pattern, and it is just a solid wall of random colors with no artistry. It's kind of funny.
My Sweetie stopped in on his way home.
When I went home, he was making spring rolls to take to a potluck lunch at work tomorrow. We had some for supper.
We watched the newer version of "The Magnificent Seven", which is a pretty good movie.
That Hawaii is the only American state free of Rabies. Makes sense, it's like Australia.
https://health.hawaii.gov/docd/disease_listing/rabies/#:~:text=Hawaii%20is%20the%20only%20state,exposures%20outside%20of%20the%20state.
