Monday, November 27
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Our sweet little critters. Such a nice group to cuddle with.
I got a few things done before I left for town. I made quinoa so that my husband would have building blocks for supper when he got home, and I did up the dishes.
I didn't have much for other tasks that had to happen in town, so I was able to go straight to pottery.
I glazed a bunch of pieces that were ready, and got a little carried away with doing "splashy" type glaze, so hopefully it looks good.
The usual people were there, and it was nice to chat with them. The woman who was just at our place this last Saturday was there.
The "used to be my" friend was there, and once she showed up it was kind of "all about herself" time.
You know, she IS a very smart, very capable, very well traveled person with lots of talents, but it gets to me how every time, she has to LET EVERYONE KNOW SHE'S KIND OF A BIG DEAL.
She HAS traveled a lot. All over the place. It also becomes a huge part of every discussion at pottery class for her to talk for extended periods of time about her travels and adventures...."So if you ever get the chance to go to Lima, Peru, make sure you go to THIS part of it, not the OTHER part of it..." etc.
She wants to go to South Africa this year, and that comes up a lot, but she thinks she might have to settle for taking her husband to Las Vegas but spicing it up by also going to see the National Parks surrounding it, including the Grand Canyon, and THEN going to South Africa. Her husband isn't "a confident enough traveler" to take him with her to South Africa.
Her dog and her horse are both "the smartest animals she's ever met, and she loves owning animals that challenge her skills as a trainer at every turn, good thing she's a superior animal trainer and is probably the only person who could have been able to deal with their remarkable levels of intelligence and skill".
She's also incredibly good with houseplants, and manages to talk almost every class about some very important aspects of plant husbandry.
I actually do feel that she IS good at a lot of things. Do we have to hear about those things at great length all the time? She's also going to be pretty much an expert at whatever you might also be talking about. Doesn't really matter what it is, she's probably more knowledgeable about it.
I have gotten into the habit of specifically asking the other people at pottery how their week/day is going, and "creating space" for them to talk about whatever they want to talk about, because I genuinely want to know how they're doing, and I suspect that if I didn't create that opening, they would not get the chance to talk at all.
Anyhow, I still enjoyed working on my pieces, though after a while this "very knowledgeable person" kind of grated on my nerves.
It was my turn to mop the studio tonight, though it wasn't very dirty. The studio's policy of EVERYONE HAS TO MOP ALL THE DAMN TIME means it never gets very dirty.
I actually got finished about half an hour earlier than I usually do, which made me feel like I had a LOT of time to get groceries.
I also saw the VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE person at the grocery store. I was a bit worried that she might have overheard me talking to my husband about her, as I had been talking to him on my phone while I was shopping.
Oh well. I feel kind of bad if she did. She's not a BAD person, just...VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE.
A medium/big trip, and I'm very grateful to be able to buy groceries, to be physically capable of doing so, and to have a nice little car to transport everything.
I got home and my Sweetie stayed up to help me put everything away, and he had some supper for me (YAY!). He had gone rock climbing today on his way home from work, and said he had a very good session, so I'm happy for him. It's nice that he has a gym close enough to his work place that he can do this. He deserves to have something to do besides work.
I learned that NYC has four parks that are larger than Central Park.
Pelham Bay Park Bronx 2,765 acres
Greenbelt, Staten Island 1,778 acres
Van Cortlandt Park, Bronx 1,146 acres
Flushing Meadows/Corona Park, Queens 898 acres
Central Park, Manhattan 843 acres
Marine Park, Brooklyn 798 acres
Bronx Park, Bronx 718 acres
Franklin D. Roosevelt Boardwalk, South and Midland Beaches, Staten Island 638 acres
Alley Pond Park, Queens 636 acres
Forest Park, Queens 544 acres
https://www.nycgovparks.org/about/faq
I had no idea that NYC had so many big parks.
Our sweet little critters. Such a nice group to cuddle with.
I got a few things done before I left for town. I made quinoa so that my husband would have building blocks for supper when he got home, and I did up the dishes.
I didn't have much for other tasks that had to happen in town, so I was able to go straight to pottery.
I glazed a bunch of pieces that were ready, and got a little carried away with doing "splashy" type glaze, so hopefully it looks good.
The usual people were there, and it was nice to chat with them. The woman who was just at our place this last Saturday was there.
The "used to be my" friend was there, and once she showed up it was kind of "all about herself" time.
You know, she IS a very smart, very capable, very well traveled person with lots of talents, but it gets to me how every time, she has to LET EVERYONE KNOW SHE'S KIND OF A BIG DEAL.
She HAS traveled a lot. All over the place. It also becomes a huge part of every discussion at pottery class for her to talk for extended periods of time about her travels and adventures...."So if you ever get the chance to go to Lima, Peru, make sure you go to THIS part of it, not the OTHER part of it..." etc.
She wants to go to South Africa this year, and that comes up a lot, but she thinks she might have to settle for taking her husband to Las Vegas but spicing it up by also going to see the National Parks surrounding it, including the Grand Canyon, and THEN going to South Africa. Her husband isn't "a confident enough traveler" to take him with her to South Africa.
Her dog and her horse are both "the smartest animals she's ever met, and she loves owning animals that challenge her skills as a trainer at every turn, good thing she's a superior animal trainer and is probably the only person who could have been able to deal with their remarkable levels of intelligence and skill".
She's also incredibly good with houseplants, and manages to talk almost every class about some very important aspects of plant husbandry.
I actually do feel that she IS good at a lot of things. Do we have to hear about those things at great length all the time? She's also going to be pretty much an expert at whatever you might also be talking about. Doesn't really matter what it is, she's probably more knowledgeable about it.
I have gotten into the habit of specifically asking the other people at pottery how their week/day is going, and "creating space" for them to talk about whatever they want to talk about, because I genuinely want to know how they're doing, and I suspect that if I didn't create that opening, they would not get the chance to talk at all.
Anyhow, I still enjoyed working on my pieces, though after a while this "very knowledgeable person" kind of grated on my nerves.
It was my turn to mop the studio tonight, though it wasn't very dirty. The studio's policy of EVERYONE HAS TO MOP ALL THE DAMN TIME means it never gets very dirty.
I actually got finished about half an hour earlier than I usually do, which made me feel like I had a LOT of time to get groceries.
I also saw the VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE person at the grocery store. I was a bit worried that she might have overheard me talking to my husband about her, as I had been talking to him on my phone while I was shopping.
Oh well. I feel kind of bad if she did. She's not a BAD person, just...VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE.
A medium/big trip, and I'm very grateful to be able to buy groceries, to be physically capable of doing so, and to have a nice little car to transport everything.
I got home and my Sweetie stayed up to help me put everything away, and he had some supper for me (YAY!). He had gone rock climbing today on his way home from work, and said he had a very good session, so I'm happy for him. It's nice that he has a gym close enough to his work place that he can do this. He deserves to have something to do besides work.
I learned that NYC has four parks that are larger than Central Park.
Pelham Bay Park Bronx 2,765 acres
Greenbelt, Staten Island 1,778 acres
Van Cortlandt Park, Bronx 1,146 acres
Flushing Meadows/Corona Park, Queens 898 acres
Central Park, Manhattan 843 acres
Marine Park, Brooklyn 798 acres
Bronx Park, Bronx 718 acres
Franklin D. Roosevelt Boardwalk, South and Midland Beaches, Staten Island 638 acres
Alley Pond Park, Queens 636 acres
Forest Park, Queens 544 acres
https://www.nycgovparks.org/about/faq
I had no idea that NYC had so many big parks.
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Date: 2023-11-29 04:03 am (UTC)You're used to be friend, it makes me wonder what's so wrong in her life that she needs so desperately to only see all the good and in the biggest and grandest ways. What she's so deeply afraid of everyone else seeing that she can't face herself inside. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what I think of.
How lovely to have cuddles built into your day.
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Date: 2023-11-29 08:23 am (UTC)I did notice this a bit back when we walked our dogs together (we used to meet once a week), but maybe I was less bothered by it because I just enjoyed the walking.
Somehow, in a room with a few other people in it, it becomes more obvious that she's talking so much about topics she directs, that are mostly about her own interests or accomplishments, that no one else gets to talk about how their day or week is going.
Pretty much the moment she walks in the room, she's directing the conversation.
I too, wonder if somewhere inside she feels like she's lacking somehow.
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Date: 2023-11-30 07:27 am (UTC)I wish you the best with finding more people in your day that are more emotionally healthy, even if all you have to do is interact with them from a distance. Still makes the day better.
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Date: 2023-11-30 09:19 am (UTC)I do wonder why she needs to be always talking about herself as if she is THE AUTHORITY on so many topics (or at least she keeps the topics to where she is an expert). I barely even bother to talk about my experiences or opinions when she's around, because she literally just contradicts or corrects half of what I say. Even when it is a personal experience, like my views of the people I met when my husband and I lived in Wyoming; because she had a different experience meeting Americans in an airport.
We lived in Wyoming for seven years, and the people I was speaking about were people we knew well, had as personal friends and neighbors, and people my husband worked with. I never meant my observations to be a blanket statement about all Americans, and not even all people from Wyoming, just talking about people we knew.
I talked about how quite a few people we knew were very into guns, were really fitting the bill of the red-neck kind of person, lots of ex-military people we met through my husband's job, and many people were pretty uncomfortable with LGBTQ folks and Mexican immigrants. That was just the truth. We also met more liberal folks when I went to the college there.
She felt that somehow, I was just "wrong" about Americans because she had a good experience at an airport where everyone was nice to her. I said "when did I ever say they weren't nice?" Those same ex-military, gun loving folks who didn't like gay people probably all would have been pleasant to a strange white Canadian woman in an airport.
You're right. I would like be be able to spend time with some emotionally healthy people sometimes, that is if I don't drive them nuts.
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Date: 2023-12-02 04:43 am (UTC)Glad she's not somebody you have to be in close contact with often.
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Date: 2023-12-02 10:47 am (UTC)There is a huge difference between someone who is self-aware and open to growth, and those who are stuck forever in a victim mentality.
I think EVERYONE wants their version of a stone cottage where they can leave everyone else out!
Maybe you can get one of those bed tents for when you want extra privacy.
https://www.amazon.ca/Shelter-Privacy-Breathable-Mattress-Included/dp/B07WKLSWQB/ref=asc_df_B07WKLSWQB/?tag=googleshopc0c-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=412175936779&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=14085709900068222668&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=20113&hvtargid=pla-841889956559&mcid=326ee28bd8a63a62a98266d1b6da8be9&th=1