Tuesday, December 12
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Though it is becoming slightly unnerving, the continuation of mild weather for this time of the year.
I had a brief conversation with Sister E, which is all I ever seem to have with her, ten minutes here, ten minutes there, as she seems to always be very busy, in spite of being retired now.
It was all good, but she was walking towards her son's house as we talked. Apparently she was supposed to be meeting with him to go walk their dogs together. She knocked on his door, and he opened it, and yelled "Goddamn it, Mom, what are you doing here? Just LEAVE, LEAVE!!!!".
Who on Earth speaks to their Mom that way, and why would she tolerate it? This is a grown ass man of about 40, who every time I hear about him seems to act like a child.
I just said "well, it sounds like you need to go", and left it at that. What the Hell.
Why would anyone bother with a son who acts like that towards them?
Shortly afterwards, I went to see River.
I chatted a bit with R, who is trying desperately to get someone who is a very good Liberty trainer to come to Canada from the U.S. to do a clinic with us. She has one or two in mind, but it's apparently very difficult to navigate the "working in another country" issue, and the expense would be difficult to justify against how many people would come to a clinic. She's really trying, though.
I don't know much about this, but I guess there just isn't much for really good Liberty trainers in Canada?
River was in a good mood today, which is nice.
We went through our general practice elements, and he just seemed more willing overall. I know he's really enjoying the extra treats he's been getting as I work on target training him.
In our ridden work we focused on going around pylons to make neater circles and tried to get him to keep the same rhythm in his trot. He often speeds up, slows down, goes down to a walk or halts if you aren't paying attention. I would like him to stay focused (and of course, that's likely in part because I have to stay focused too, and actively "ride" him consistently) and maintain an even pace.
He did well in our canter work, and I'm not entirely sure, but I think he did a lead change when I changed directions in our canter. I was just seeing if he would do it, and was totally going to be okay with him trotting a few steps if he didn't. It's not easy.
I chatted a bit with the person who came in for a lesson at 7 pm, as I was putting everything away. She has a young son, and I usually ask how he's doing.
I came home, and my Sweetie had started quinoa for me in the cooker, so it was easier for me to make my supper. He had eaten on his way home from work.
I did get upset when he talked about meeting some friends in the city for a beer after work tomorrow. I get tired of feeling like he lives a separate life because he works in the city, and now he goes to the rock climbing gym a lot after work, and now he's talking about meeting friends for beers. It's like he's doing his own thing a lot instead of coming home, which makes me angry because all he does when he comes home is goes to bed as early as possible.
I know that he generally only does things like the gym or meeting friends on nights when I ride, because I get home about the same time he does anyhow, so it's not really like he's taking time away from me, but there's something about the idea of him having a his own thing in the city that I can't be a part of. it bothers me.
There is no "solution" to that feeling, because I can't really just demand that he not do anything on his own, but the idea of meeting with friends for a beer bothers me more than the gym, because I almost never get to go out in the evening with my husband for supper, or anything fun. One day a week, on Saturday, we get the chance to do something nice together, and most of the time it's still just a day at home trying to catch up on chores. Maybe once or twice a month we go somewhere in the city.
So it hits me wrong that he can casually go out for supper and a beer with friends anytime he wants to after work. I don't get that option.
I learned that Duane Allman, of the Allman Brothers, only started playing the guitar when he was 14, and died in a motorcycle accident at the age of 24, yet is considered to have been number 2 of the "top 100 guitar players of all time" by the Rolling Stone magazine in 2003.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duane_Allman
I mean, just LISTEN to this! It's his brother, Greg singing. What's amazing is how this whole band of young men all manage to look like they're 40 year old homeless guys.
https://youtu.be/FUvxRjYqjEQ?si=006fuDCMjOVeJjJH
Though it is becoming slightly unnerving, the continuation of mild weather for this time of the year.
I had a brief conversation with Sister E, which is all I ever seem to have with her, ten minutes here, ten minutes there, as she seems to always be very busy, in spite of being retired now.
It was all good, but she was walking towards her son's house as we talked. Apparently she was supposed to be meeting with him to go walk their dogs together. She knocked on his door, and he opened it, and yelled "Goddamn it, Mom, what are you doing here? Just LEAVE, LEAVE!!!!".
Who on Earth speaks to their Mom that way, and why would she tolerate it? This is a grown ass man of about 40, who every time I hear about him seems to act like a child.
I just said "well, it sounds like you need to go", and left it at that. What the Hell.
Why would anyone bother with a son who acts like that towards them?
Shortly afterwards, I went to see River.
I chatted a bit with R, who is trying desperately to get someone who is a very good Liberty trainer to come to Canada from the U.S. to do a clinic with us. She has one or two in mind, but it's apparently very difficult to navigate the "working in another country" issue, and the expense would be difficult to justify against how many people would come to a clinic. She's really trying, though.
I don't know much about this, but I guess there just isn't much for really good Liberty trainers in Canada?
River was in a good mood today, which is nice.
We went through our general practice elements, and he just seemed more willing overall. I know he's really enjoying the extra treats he's been getting as I work on target training him.
In our ridden work we focused on going around pylons to make neater circles and tried to get him to keep the same rhythm in his trot. He often speeds up, slows down, goes down to a walk or halts if you aren't paying attention. I would like him to stay focused (and of course, that's likely in part because I have to stay focused too, and actively "ride" him consistently) and maintain an even pace.
He did well in our canter work, and I'm not entirely sure, but I think he did a lead change when I changed directions in our canter. I was just seeing if he would do it, and was totally going to be okay with him trotting a few steps if he didn't. It's not easy.
I chatted a bit with the person who came in for a lesson at 7 pm, as I was putting everything away. She has a young son, and I usually ask how he's doing.
I came home, and my Sweetie had started quinoa for me in the cooker, so it was easier for me to make my supper. He had eaten on his way home from work.
I did get upset when he talked about meeting some friends in the city for a beer after work tomorrow. I get tired of feeling like he lives a separate life because he works in the city, and now he goes to the rock climbing gym a lot after work, and now he's talking about meeting friends for beers. It's like he's doing his own thing a lot instead of coming home, which makes me angry because all he does when he comes home is goes to bed as early as possible.
I know that he generally only does things like the gym or meeting friends on nights when I ride, because I get home about the same time he does anyhow, so it's not really like he's taking time away from me, but there's something about the idea of him having a his own thing in the city that I can't be a part of. it bothers me.
There is no "solution" to that feeling, because I can't really just demand that he not do anything on his own, but the idea of meeting with friends for a beer bothers me more than the gym, because I almost never get to go out in the evening with my husband for supper, or anything fun. One day a week, on Saturday, we get the chance to do something nice together, and most of the time it's still just a day at home trying to catch up on chores. Maybe once or twice a month we go somewhere in the city.
So it hits me wrong that he can casually go out for supper and a beer with friends anytime he wants to after work. I don't get that option.
I learned that Duane Allman, of the Allman Brothers, only started playing the guitar when he was 14, and died in a motorcycle accident at the age of 24, yet is considered to have been number 2 of the "top 100 guitar players of all time" by the Rolling Stone magazine in 2003.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duane_Allman
I mean, just LISTEN to this! It's his brother, Greg singing. What's amazing is how this whole band of young men all manage to look like they're 40 year old homeless guys.
https://youtu.be/FUvxRjYqjEQ?si=006fuDCMjOVeJjJH
