Tuesday, April 8
Apr. 8th, 2025 11:20 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Waking on my own a few minutes before my alarm went off, so that I would be prepared for our Communications Committee video conference.
I am glad that I was on time, and mentally ready to contribute today. Once again, I am very proud of our committee, and how intelligent and competent we are as a group.
Our contributions and what we are doing might not seem like a big deal, but this is the first time in the time that I've been in this pottery group that a committee formed to address people's issues in a such a functional way. Usually it turned into people just bitching endlessly at the executive, with various results, not people actually doing something about their concerns themselves.
It's a very positive direction.
We are ready to create our Facebook page now.
I'm not sure if we are moving on to another project after this or not.
After the meeting concluded, I talked with Sister E. She is having a really hard time with her husband, who seems more and more upset about things like having their flooring replaced, or Sister E going out to do fun things (and leaving him at home since he doesn't want to do them).
To be fair, it also sounds like Sister E is forgetting that he is 76 years old, in very poor health from Diabetes and the constant infections that he suffers. He doesn't feel well enough to participate in the activities my sister can still do. He isn't able to go play pickle ball, or walk the dog much.
He isn't well enough to work on the house, and maybe not even do things like paint the deck or fix things like he used to do.
She's used to him being able to lift things, move things, fix stuff. She's being hard on him for "giving up" (in her mind, that's what he's doing).
She said he was VERY worked up about getting new flooring. Anxious, irritable..he really just didn't "want to bother".
To me, it could be the early stages of Dementia. She's describing him as being less willing to leave the house, uninterested in doing anything, upset at having to make decisions or change things. He wants to just sit on the couch.
Some of it for sure is that he IS SICK. He's got very bad diabetes. He wears a catheter. He gets a lot of infections and such. That would be enough reason on it's own to stop wanting to do things. He's tired all the time from the diabetes.
BUT, what she's saying about mood changes, irritability, not wanting to leave the house at all, not wanting to make decisions or have other people do work on the house, all that makes me think Dementia.
My sister and I had this EXACT same conversation a few months ago, and THEN she agreed, and wanted to have him tested. She didn't do that. I think she forgot all about it.
Who knows if she'll insist on it now. She should have him tested in case she's facing the need to have him in care in a few years. She needs a baseline.
Sister E also mentioned that Trainwreck is in the hospital again, and this time seems now willing to go to a rehab center. Good for her, but I'm also not getting my hopes up.
Sister S had her back surgery, and seems to be doing okay managing the pain with the meds they gave her.
After that, I went outside to do chores, and my Sweetie got home from work. We went to meet up with the septic guy to get a new pump.
After that, I went to see River and my Sweetie installed the new pump.
River was very happy and a bit crusty from rolling in muck. He really revels in it.
I gave R some of the "no flour/sugar" squares I made with cocoa, and she likes the cocoa.
River was in a great mood today, and his breathing was good. He had decent energy. He put a lot of "try" in today, and I really enjoyed it.
We even just played a bit, which is super fun with Liberty work.
I was able to stand on him with the umbrella again for a count of thirty. Very cool.
Then I came home, returned Dandy, and my Sweetie had supper ready. We watched an episode of "Fringe".
Waking on my own a few minutes before my alarm went off, so that I would be prepared for our Communications Committee video conference.
I am glad that I was on time, and mentally ready to contribute today. Once again, I am very proud of our committee, and how intelligent and competent we are as a group.
Our contributions and what we are doing might not seem like a big deal, but this is the first time in the time that I've been in this pottery group that a committee formed to address people's issues in a such a functional way. Usually it turned into people just bitching endlessly at the executive, with various results, not people actually doing something about their concerns themselves.
It's a very positive direction.
We are ready to create our Facebook page now.
I'm not sure if we are moving on to another project after this or not.
After the meeting concluded, I talked with Sister E. She is having a really hard time with her husband, who seems more and more upset about things like having their flooring replaced, or Sister E going out to do fun things (and leaving him at home since he doesn't want to do them).
To be fair, it also sounds like Sister E is forgetting that he is 76 years old, in very poor health from Diabetes and the constant infections that he suffers. He doesn't feel well enough to participate in the activities my sister can still do. He isn't able to go play pickle ball, or walk the dog much.
He isn't well enough to work on the house, and maybe not even do things like paint the deck or fix things like he used to do.
She's used to him being able to lift things, move things, fix stuff. She's being hard on him for "giving up" (in her mind, that's what he's doing).
She said he was VERY worked up about getting new flooring. Anxious, irritable..he really just didn't "want to bother".
To me, it could be the early stages of Dementia. She's describing him as being less willing to leave the house, uninterested in doing anything, upset at having to make decisions or change things. He wants to just sit on the couch.
Some of it for sure is that he IS SICK. He's got very bad diabetes. He wears a catheter. He gets a lot of infections and such. That would be enough reason on it's own to stop wanting to do things. He's tired all the time from the diabetes.
BUT, what she's saying about mood changes, irritability, not wanting to leave the house at all, not wanting to make decisions or have other people do work on the house, all that makes me think Dementia.
My sister and I had this EXACT same conversation a few months ago, and THEN she agreed, and wanted to have him tested. She didn't do that. I think she forgot all about it.
Who knows if she'll insist on it now. She should have him tested in case she's facing the need to have him in care in a few years. She needs a baseline.
Sister E also mentioned that Trainwreck is in the hospital again, and this time seems now willing to go to a rehab center. Good for her, but I'm also not getting my hopes up.
Sister S had her back surgery, and seems to be doing okay managing the pain with the meds they gave her.
After that, I went outside to do chores, and my Sweetie got home from work. We went to meet up with the septic guy to get a new pump.
After that, I went to see River and my Sweetie installed the new pump.
River was very happy and a bit crusty from rolling in muck. He really revels in it.
I gave R some of the "no flour/sugar" squares I made with cocoa, and she likes the cocoa.
River was in a great mood today, and his breathing was good. He had decent energy. He put a lot of "try" in today, and I really enjoyed it.
We even just played a bit, which is super fun with Liberty work.
I was able to stand on him with the umbrella again for a count of thirty. Very cool.
Then I came home, returned Dandy, and my Sweetie had supper ready. We watched an episode of "Fringe".
