Friday, November 7

[gottawonder]

Today I am grateful for:

Good sleep.

Time just to be with my Sweetie before jumping into the day. It's nice to wake up and he's home; usually he goes to work at 5 am and I don't get to see him again until evening.

It's been snowing, a real snowfall, not just a skiff. Enough that the roads are fairly covered. I'm glad I got a blanket on Wonder yesterday so that her back wouldn't be all icy today. The ponies don't seem to care, they have so much hair it doesn't reach their skin.

My Sweetie wanted to squirrel off to the climbing gym (on a day where a fresh dump of snow makes driving in the city pretty hazardous; everyone forgets how to drive the first day of snow) which surprised me, given how nasty it was outside.

I asked him to put away some things in front of the pottery studio first. This is stuff that kind of has nowhere to go right now; the pottery studio WAS the garden shed, so a bunch of stuff got moved outside, and is meant to go in the NEW garden shed, but it's not finished, so it's all just sitting outside getting covered in wet snow.

My husband was all like "it's fine where it is", and my thought is that if it isn't moved SOMEWHERE, then soon it will all be frozen to the ground and covered in snow, and then that part of the yard will be a danger to walk in until Spring, and that path is where I would need to walk to get firewood, and to access the pottery studio.

So we did move most of it to the open part of the new garden shed, the overhang that will one day hold firewood.

Then he headed to the city, a two hour round trip with no other reason or utility, to go to the climbing gym.

I went to the barn to see River, and even the small roads were a bit sketchy.

I spent a lot of time today focusing on walking in tune with River (mirroring) to get connection, something I maybe don't do enough of with him.

Then I did a bit of our regular work, Liberty circles mostly.

Then I rode him for a while. He still seemed a bit "racey" at the trot in one direction, but didn't seem anxious. He just felt like he couldn't bend nicely, so just sped up to compensate, so I did a bit of work with smaller trot circles to try to get some bend.

Overall he seemed in a good mood today, much better than the last few sessions, and his breathing was good. He seemed pretty forward.

I gave River his deworming paste tonight, and he's so much better than he used to be with it. Basically I used T touch training to get him to willingly touch an empty wormer syringe, and he gets a cookie, then I put it in his mouth just like it was the real deal, and another cookie. I do that most days I work with him, so that the day it's REAL, he seems okay with the process. He used to really resist it, which sucks big time.

I didn't get to see the kittens because R took them into the house for snuggles.

I came home and my Sweetie came home not too long after.

He sort of agreed to make supper, and I sat in the living room thinking that's what he was doing, then he came and sat down and was just scrolling on his phone.

I'm like "are you making supper?" and he replied "there's some green beans in the microwave, whenever you're ready to make whatever you're going to eat".

Okayyyy. So I got up and made my supper, and he sort of made something too.

Weird.

Then we chatted for a while, and when he got up to go to bed, I said "let's feed the cats so they'll leave you alone and you can sleep".

He said "sure", and it sure looked like he was going to help me feed the cats (it's sort of complicated to feed them, and sometimes it's nice to have help, feeding four cats who have to all be kept away from each other and fed in a particular order, then the dog needs to be fed, also in another room).

Then he left to go sit in the bathroom, with me standing there holding the cat food, and cats screaming to be fed.

So I fed them, bewildered about what he thought he was doing.

I was pretty angry at him, because it's just confusing...why say you're going to help me do something and then just walk away?

His response "I decided to go to the bathroom, and you usually feed them by yourself anyhow".

So we had a conversation about "doing what you say you're going to do", which I really shouldn't have to have with a grown man.

He's not like this every day, but today I felt like his parent. I had to "make" him put away the things in front of the pottery studio before he left to go climbing, he said he was making supper and I ended up cooking for myself, and he sort of just walked away from helping me feed the animals.

Let's hope that tomorrow we can have a more grown up day together.