Sunday, March 8
Mar. 8th, 2026 11:54 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Some sleep, though it was a bit fitful.
After eating we did a bit of house tidying. I got my Sweetie to help with the cat litter, and then I did sweeping/vacuuming. He did the dishes. I did some laundry.
I addressed two more of the "it can sit there for now" fabric shopping bags that he's left strewn around. One had his lunch box and some clothes in it, all of which have a place to be put away, so I just did while he looked on.
The other bag contained things for his bikes, which should be in the garage, not sitting on the counter in the mud room, where it's been for a while now. I directly asked him if it had somewhere to go, and he replied "not really". I said "you have big new bins that you bought to organize your bike stuff, can they go there?" he said "I can't get to those bins right now" (the implication of course being that the goat pens make his life impossible to organize).
I challenged that notion by leading him to the garage, and found that it was, in fact, quite easy to get to the bin that contained his bike things, so he pouted heavily, went back to the house, and brought the bag full of items out to the garage where they belonged.
It was literally more work for me to make him put away one bag of stuff than it would have been just to take it out there myself, but there are principles at play here.
If I hadn't done this, that bag would have sat there for at least three more months, and he might never have bothered to take all of it out of the house, he might have only taken whatever he needed in the moment, and left the rest sitting there. He does this with just about everything he owns. Just leaves it right there because "I'll use it at some point, no point in putting it away". Even when we BOUGHT BINS for his bike stuff.
Sigh.
Well, at least it didn't cause another fight.
At every stage, I spoke to him reasonably.
In and around all the household chores, he baked his mini banana bread loaves for his lunches.
Then we headed to the riding barn. It was just a little above freezing, and very nice outside today.
River did well in our work, though already he is a bit warm when we work.
I worked on something I might use in a freestyle, and he did really well with it today. We also practiced a pattern.
Then we came home, ate supper, and had enough time to watch "Deadpool". The first one is my favorite, the others seem watered down and sanitized.
Some sleep, though it was a bit fitful.
After eating we did a bit of house tidying. I got my Sweetie to help with the cat litter, and then I did sweeping/vacuuming. He did the dishes. I did some laundry.
I addressed two more of the "it can sit there for now" fabric shopping bags that he's left strewn around. One had his lunch box and some clothes in it, all of which have a place to be put away, so I just did while he looked on.
The other bag contained things for his bikes, which should be in the garage, not sitting on the counter in the mud room, where it's been for a while now. I directly asked him if it had somewhere to go, and he replied "not really". I said "you have big new bins that you bought to organize your bike stuff, can they go there?" he said "I can't get to those bins right now" (the implication of course being that the goat pens make his life impossible to organize).
I challenged that notion by leading him to the garage, and found that it was, in fact, quite easy to get to the bin that contained his bike things, so he pouted heavily, went back to the house, and brought the bag full of items out to the garage where they belonged.
It was literally more work for me to make him put away one bag of stuff than it would have been just to take it out there myself, but there are principles at play here.
If I hadn't done this, that bag would have sat there for at least three more months, and he might never have bothered to take all of it out of the house, he might have only taken whatever he needed in the moment, and left the rest sitting there. He does this with just about everything he owns. Just leaves it right there because "I'll use it at some point, no point in putting it away". Even when we BOUGHT BINS for his bike stuff.
Sigh.
Well, at least it didn't cause another fight.
At every stage, I spoke to him reasonably.
In and around all the household chores, he baked his mini banana bread loaves for his lunches.
Then we headed to the riding barn. It was just a little above freezing, and very nice outside today.
River did well in our work, though already he is a bit warm when we work.
I worked on something I might use in a freestyle, and he did really well with it today. We also practiced a pattern.
Then we came home, ate supper, and had enough time to watch "Deadpool". The first one is my favorite, the others seem watered down and sanitized.
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Date: 2026-03-09 07:39 am (UTC)I like cloth grocery bags, but they inevitably wind up flung on doorknobs after they've been emptied. We have a front closet off the foyer and vestibule, and loads of hooks for them to hang there. So – let's hang them in the closet, shall we??
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Date: 2026-03-09 07:27 pm (UTC)Otherwise, they are often found all over the house, the garage, the vehicles with things in them. My husband seems to feel that the bags are mobile organizers, that can be left anywhere "for now" (months to years) with whatever he put inside of them.