Tuesday, March 10
Mar. 10th, 2026 02:59 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
Good sleep. The kitties allowed me to get enough.
Did normal animal feeding and such.
I spoke with Sister E briefly, and once again felt like I was inconveniencing her or something by calling; she's always in the middle of something, her phone is always "dying", and she struggles to get the phone connected properly to her hearing aids.
Yet, once we got going, she was happy enough to talk about how things were going with their dog who has been having issues, and so on.
So, what I asked her today was something I've been wondering about...if she would ever bother to call me. I think I have been the one to phone her pretty much every time I have ever talked with her. I literally cannot recall a time where she called me first.
My Mom was the same way. Sometimes happy to hear from me, sometimes didn't sound like she wanted to talk, but rarely if ever bothered to call me. I felt at the time it was because she just had no idea when was a good time to call since "young people" are always doing things, but I wonder.
Anyhow, I asked Sister E if she would call ME next time, and her response was "I have no idea if I will...I'm always so busy, things just happen, the day gets away on me, I have no idea when to call you". So I gave her a rough idea of the best time to call me.
You know what? She can do what the rest of us do, call, and if it isn't a good time figure out when a good time might be.
So there you go. This last month has felt like I'm just being severed from my family. It's the strangest feeling. I am tired of running after them though.
Then I went to the riding barn. I talked with R for a while; the two young male cats (the ones who have been kittens all winter) got neutered last week, but both of them are running into problems with infections. I'm really wondering about the vet who did the surgery; infection isn't that common in a routine neuter surgery, and BOTH of these cats have had pretty bad infections at the surgery site. It doesn't seem right.
She has had them looked at and treated and cleaned out and antibiotics, so hopefully they'll be okay.
The woman who was going to have a lesson after my ride time couldn't come because their pipes burst. She's had a rough go of things lately.
So River and I did our thing, and I worked more on ideas for our freestyle, and I feel like I'm finally getting somewhere. It's hard to do something new and appropriately challenging that isn't repetitive.
I did put a few "new" songs on the playlist, so that's fun.
My Sweetie stopped in on his way home from work and stayed until we finished.
Then we went home, I did dishes and he made me supper (he grabbed some fast food because he forgot part of his lunch and was too hungry to wait).
Then we watched another episode of "Slow Horses".
Later I watched "Stoker", a very creepy yet excellent modern Gothic horror.
Good sleep. The kitties allowed me to get enough.
Did normal animal feeding and such.
I spoke with Sister E briefly, and once again felt like I was inconveniencing her or something by calling; she's always in the middle of something, her phone is always "dying", and she struggles to get the phone connected properly to her hearing aids.
Yet, once we got going, she was happy enough to talk about how things were going with their dog who has been having issues, and so on.
So, what I asked her today was something I've been wondering about...if she would ever bother to call me. I think I have been the one to phone her pretty much every time I have ever talked with her. I literally cannot recall a time where she called me first.
My Mom was the same way. Sometimes happy to hear from me, sometimes didn't sound like she wanted to talk, but rarely if ever bothered to call me. I felt at the time it was because she just had no idea when was a good time to call since "young people" are always doing things, but I wonder.
Anyhow, I asked Sister E if she would call ME next time, and her response was "I have no idea if I will...I'm always so busy, things just happen, the day gets away on me, I have no idea when to call you". So I gave her a rough idea of the best time to call me.
You know what? She can do what the rest of us do, call, and if it isn't a good time figure out when a good time might be.
So there you go. This last month has felt like I'm just being severed from my family. It's the strangest feeling. I am tired of running after them though.
Then I went to the riding barn. I talked with R for a while; the two young male cats (the ones who have been kittens all winter) got neutered last week, but both of them are running into problems with infections. I'm really wondering about the vet who did the surgery; infection isn't that common in a routine neuter surgery, and BOTH of these cats have had pretty bad infections at the surgery site. It doesn't seem right.
She has had them looked at and treated and cleaned out and antibiotics, so hopefully they'll be okay.
The woman who was going to have a lesson after my ride time couldn't come because their pipes burst. She's had a rough go of things lately.
So River and I did our thing, and I worked more on ideas for our freestyle, and I feel like I'm finally getting somewhere. It's hard to do something new and appropriately challenging that isn't repetitive.
I did put a few "new" songs on the playlist, so that's fun.
My Sweetie stopped in on his way home from work and stayed until we finished.
Then we went home, I did dishes and he made me supper (he grabbed some fast food because he forgot part of his lunch and was too hungry to wait).
Then we watched another episode of "Slow Horses".
Later I watched "Stoker", a very creepy yet excellent modern Gothic horror.
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Date: 2026-03-13 03:59 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2026-03-13 07:12 am (UTC)It might be six months before she manages to call. Sigh.
Well, she manages to make doctor's appointments and to call her son, and to do all kinds of things. It shouldn't be asking for the moon that once a week or so she pick up the phone to talk.
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Date: 2026-03-14 10:13 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2026-03-15 06:41 am (UTC)Sister E really does have something going on too, undiagnosed autism or ADHD or something. Yet, I know she maintains friendships well, and held down a job, and so on, she COULD call me once or twice a month.
It sucked to hear her say "I don't even know what is a good time to call you", since I have consistently called her within the same window of time now for years, telling her this is when I am in the house still before I go off to the riding barn and such.
It's entirely possible that she just doesn't care enough to pay attention.