Monday, August 8
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gottawonderToday I am grateful for:
A fairly hot, sunny day.
The farrier made it today. I am so glad for this. Poor Wonder, her feet were really long.
Everyone was really good for the farrier except for little Dandy again. It seems I can pick up his feet all I want, but the farrier trimming him is a different issue, though she is never mean to him. We finally got him to stop jumping around by distracting him with some hay.
I had a nice, long phone conversation with my sister E. They had family (on her husband's side) come from Germany to visit.
I felt really overwhelmed by everything again today. I know that every day, I need to pick a really hard task, and work at it, because there is so much that needs to be done. It is hard to face every day knowing that there is something really monumental you have to do...every day.
I began moving boxes out of the sea can. I took a few to the garden shed that only had pottery in them (mice aren't going to hurt pottery) and several big tubs of fabric mostly, some dishes, yarn to the house.
I took most of them into the basement, one I took the dishes out and washed them, and the yarn I put everything into zip loc bags and washed out the tub because I am concerned about moths.
That in itself was a pretty good task. A good start on moving everything in.
THEN I pulled weeds in another area I want to mulch. Big, four foot tall, obnoxious Canada Thistles. I pulled for about an hour, and cleared an area about 6X12 feet. A small room.
I did talk with my Sweetie, and it ended with me feeling frustrated. Again.
We seem to be stalled on the siding right now. Several times he has said he is ready to order the material, well over a month ago he said he was ready. So I was like...fine! Order it. Call our friends. Set a date.
He kept saying over the course of the spring/summer that he wanted to side the house in August to take advantage of the usually dry weather we have then. Fine. Good. It's August now, and I ask him if he is ready, and he's not.
He did not order the material. It takes three weeks to get it after you order. That means if he ordered it now, it would maybe get here by the end of August.
I ask if he could let me order it, he says no. It would be too complicated. I ask why? How am I unable to give them the dimensions of the material we need/
It comes out: He doesn't have it figured out yet what we need for materials. He doesn't want to make a mistake regarding the window trim, and he hasn't decided yet how to approach them.
He also is now saying that he needs to talk to the carpenter we hired, because he might have a better idea of how to do the trim around our windows. I said, "what, you waited until now to ask someone about the windows?".
We had ALL WINTER where we did very little on the house, where he was supposed to be doing that kind of research to prepare for this summer.
So. Thus I am frustrated. Then he has the gall to say he would appreciate it if I would just trust him to get this kind of thing done. He says I have my jobs that I do, and he has the jobs he does.
I then ask if he has made a meeting with the person handling our account at the bank, to figure out how to sell those American stocks. He has not made a meeting, or any emails or anything with this person, and once again, I should just trust him to figure this out.
I am tired of this. This stuff needs to get done, and if he is just stalling because he doesn't know how to proceed, then we need to find the right people to answer his questions. He KNOWS that. There ARE people out there who can answer his questions. He needs to admit when he doesn't know something, and be prepared to go find someone else who can answer the question, instead of just sitting on it for another year mulling it over.
It always ends up being ME who finally realizes that he is stalled, then me who goes and finds someone else who can move things forward, while my husband gets upset that I got involved. He would rather never admit that he just doesn't know something. Maybe I am just more used to the idea that I need to ask an expert for help, instead of taking several years to learn how to do something on my own.
I learned that that the African Union has a 43-party free trade zone for goods, stretching from South Africa to Tunisia.
"Under the agreement, AfCFTA members are committed to eliminating tariffs on most goods and services over a period of 5, 10, or 13 years, depending on the country's level of development or the nature of the products.[20] General long-term objectives include creating a single, liberalised market; reducing barriers to capital and labor to facilitate investment; developing regional infrastructure; and establishing a continental customs union.[22] The overall aims of AfCFTA are to increase socioeconomic development, reduce poverty, and make Africa more competitive in the global economy."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_Continental_Free_Trade_Area
A fairly hot, sunny day.
The farrier made it today. I am so glad for this. Poor Wonder, her feet were really long.
Everyone was really good for the farrier except for little Dandy again. It seems I can pick up his feet all I want, but the farrier trimming him is a different issue, though she is never mean to him. We finally got him to stop jumping around by distracting him with some hay.
I had a nice, long phone conversation with my sister E. They had family (on her husband's side) come from Germany to visit.
I felt really overwhelmed by everything again today. I know that every day, I need to pick a really hard task, and work at it, because there is so much that needs to be done. It is hard to face every day knowing that there is something really monumental you have to do...every day.
I began moving boxes out of the sea can. I took a few to the garden shed that only had pottery in them (mice aren't going to hurt pottery) and several big tubs of fabric mostly, some dishes, yarn to the house.
I took most of them into the basement, one I took the dishes out and washed them, and the yarn I put everything into zip loc bags and washed out the tub because I am concerned about moths.
That in itself was a pretty good task. A good start on moving everything in.
THEN I pulled weeds in another area I want to mulch. Big, four foot tall, obnoxious Canada Thistles. I pulled for about an hour, and cleared an area about 6X12 feet. A small room.
I did talk with my Sweetie, and it ended with me feeling frustrated. Again.
We seem to be stalled on the siding right now. Several times he has said he is ready to order the material, well over a month ago he said he was ready. So I was like...fine! Order it. Call our friends. Set a date.
He kept saying over the course of the spring/summer that he wanted to side the house in August to take advantage of the usually dry weather we have then. Fine. Good. It's August now, and I ask him if he is ready, and he's not.
He did not order the material. It takes three weeks to get it after you order. That means if he ordered it now, it would maybe get here by the end of August.
I ask if he could let me order it, he says no. It would be too complicated. I ask why? How am I unable to give them the dimensions of the material we need/
It comes out: He doesn't have it figured out yet what we need for materials. He doesn't want to make a mistake regarding the window trim, and he hasn't decided yet how to approach them.
He also is now saying that he needs to talk to the carpenter we hired, because he might have a better idea of how to do the trim around our windows. I said, "what, you waited until now to ask someone about the windows?".
We had ALL WINTER where we did very little on the house, where he was supposed to be doing that kind of research to prepare for this summer.
So. Thus I am frustrated. Then he has the gall to say he would appreciate it if I would just trust him to get this kind of thing done. He says I have my jobs that I do, and he has the jobs he does.
I then ask if he has made a meeting with the person handling our account at the bank, to figure out how to sell those American stocks. He has not made a meeting, or any emails or anything with this person, and once again, I should just trust him to figure this out.
I am tired of this. This stuff needs to get done, and if he is just stalling because he doesn't know how to proceed, then we need to find the right people to answer his questions. He KNOWS that. There ARE people out there who can answer his questions. He needs to admit when he doesn't know something, and be prepared to go find someone else who can answer the question, instead of just sitting on it for another year mulling it over.
It always ends up being ME who finally realizes that he is stalled, then me who goes and finds someone else who can move things forward, while my husband gets upset that I got involved. He would rather never admit that he just doesn't know something. Maybe I am just more used to the idea that I need to ask an expert for help, instead of taking several years to learn how to do something on my own.
I learned that that the African Union has a 43-party free trade zone for goods, stretching from South Africa to Tunisia.
"Under the agreement, AfCFTA members are committed to eliminating tariffs on most goods and services over a period of 5, 10, or 13 years, depending on the country's level of development or the nature of the products.[20] General long-term objectives include creating a single, liberalised market; reducing barriers to capital and labor to facilitate investment; developing regional infrastructure; and establishing a continental customs union.[22] The overall aims of AfCFTA are to increase socioeconomic development, reduce poverty, and make Africa more competitive in the global economy."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_Continental_Free_Trade_Area
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Date: 2022-08-11 09:16 pm (UTC)I'm not the kind of person who likes to live among boxes and piles of things; others apparently find it "cosy".
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Date: 2022-08-12 06:33 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-08-12 07:08 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-08-12 09:17 am (UTC)I do have a fine cabinet of curiosities happening. Sea shells, stones, brass bells, china, and glass ware.
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Date: 2022-08-12 09:28 pm (UTC)I shove things in there when I'm in a hurry and then forget to put them away properly.